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Our View On Soulbonders' and Multiples'
by Aaron whatshisname and Gina Carlisle
Perceptions of One Another
and What Both Groups Can Do About It
(The authors are part of a multiple group, but attempt to write from an
unbiased viewpoint. This was written in 2002.)
Once upon a time, the soulbonding and multiple groups out
there didn't really interact much, and there were a lot of
misconceptions between both groups of what the other was or was
not. Then one brave soul threw the One Ring into the Crack of
Doom, thus uniting both forevermore and causing much rejoicing.
Oops, we're getting ahead of ourselves. But if you look
through the annals of history, you'll notice that much of the
soulbonding community thought itself very far removed from
plurality, and the multiple community out there didn't even
address soulbonding at all. Recently, all of this has been
changing very quickly. Now, you don't have to look very hard to
find multiple systems who admit to soulbonding, or soulbonders
who have acknowledged themselves as multiple. The times, they are
a-changin, but what does it all mean?
In our own humble opinions, it means that the lines once
drawn between both concepts are getting weaker, and that there is
much less of a boundary there than people used to think. Is it
possible that two separate groups of people, who previously
rarely communicated at all, came up with different terminology to
describe what is essentially the same thing? We think it's very
likely. Because of this, we think it's very possible that in the
future, we'll see a lot of diffusion between the two. We hope
that people from both cultures will also mix freely, and toss
ideas back and forth like old friends sitting on a porch in late
But hey, don't let us lure you into thinking that it'll be an
effortless venture. Nothing's ever that easy. We have those years
of misunderstandings at our collective backs, and we're going to
have to do something to clear them up first. For instance,
soulbonders often remark that multiples seem to look down on them
as inferior, or "less multiple," and therefore less special.
Soulbonders have also been accused by some multiples of affecting
a semblance of plurality for attention. And for their part,
multiples often get their hackles raised when they see a
soulbonding webpage that appears to caricature all plurality as
"MPD," and offer a "But I'm not mentally ill!" disclaimer.
It's also common knowledge that both sides are beset with
problems among their own ranks. Multiples are plagued by a
subgroup that insists that their multiplicity is a terrible
ailment, and that all true multiples are of the "MPD"
variety. Soulbonders have their own cross to bear in the form of
a legion of "rabid fangirls," who claim that their soulbonds keep
them up at night with intracranial orgies. Worse than this are
the laymen out there who latch on to both of these questionable
factions and use their antics to splash mud on all
soulbonders and all multiples as a whole. Who among us
hasn't been hurt by the self-righteous howling about how all of
us are flakes, or whiners who want attention?
Right now, we think that soulbonders and multiples both are
looking at each other out of the corner of their eyes. We both
want pretty much the same things -- we want to be accepted, and
taken seriously. What we don't quite know how to do is reach
across the gap that the past years have created. So on that note,
here's are some things we think that all of us can do to make
communication between us easier, and to help each other see where
the other is coming from.
* Avoid the use of the terms
'MPD,' or 'mentally ill' (Remember that MPD stands for a
disorder, and many plurals will not respect being labelled like
this any more than you would want to be called delusional.)
* Avoid the overuse of soulbonds' antics as conversation
* Respect the people that are your soulbonds, and recognize
that multiples respect their group members just the same
* Understand that people who call themselves plural or
multiple are not categorizing themselves as superior to you
* Avoid looking at all people based on fictional concepts as 'pretend' or as unworthy of the same respect as persons with non-fictional origins.
* Understand that even though several people may each have
soulbonded a particular character, that doesn't make any of them
less or more real as people
* Avoid looking at soulbonding as a "lower form" of
Hopefully in a year or two, we'll be writing another essay called
'Our Thoughts on the New Friendship Between the Multiple and
Soulbonding Communities.' Catch you then.
Clowns to the Left of Us, Jokers to the Right
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